The AV Preacher
IS MARRIAGE?/DURATION OF THE MARRIAGE BOND
(1828) gives this definition of marriage:
ij) n. The act of uniting a man and woman for LIFE.
The Bible says:
||Therefore shall a man
leave [depart from] his father and his mother, and shall cleave [join together,
hold tightly] unto his wife [chosen life-mate]: and they shall be one flesh.
(one flesh occurs 6 other times in the Bible)
||And said, For this
cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife:
and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but
one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
||For this cause shall
a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain
shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
||For this cause shall
a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and
they two shall be one flesh.
In all of the above
there is a LEAVEing, a CLEAVEing, and a WIFE.
marriage since two people become one flesh?
The following is the
only occurrence of "one flesh" in the Bible that doesn't refer to marriage.
know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two,
saith he, shall be one flesh.
One joined to a harlot
IS one flesh with her, but this is NOT marriage to her.
is the leaving in this verse?
is the cleaving in this verse?
is the wife in this verse?
This [becoming of one
flesh], of course, would constitute whoredom and/or adultery [and/or fornication].
Hebrews 13:4 says,
honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers
God will judge.
Neither adultery nor whoredom
is marriage. How can they be honorable? If sexual immorality alone constituted
marriage then why would God judge and hate it? When Jesus spoke to the
Woman at the well:
saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither. The woman answered
and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said,
I have no husband: For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou
now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.
She was obviously living
with this man and yet God considered them UNmarried.
our working definition...
Marriage, then, is one
man and one woman entering into a covenant before God and law to LEAVE,
CLEAVE, and be HUSBAND and WIFE. Consummation makes them one flesh.
Biblical marriage is
till death do you part. (Remember your vows?!) Notice that God gave Adam
only ONE helpmeet. Adam didn't even get to pick her! God made marriage
for life. Divorce is not an option.
wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband
be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the
This applies to the husband
unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart
from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be
reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Remarriage is Adultery.
putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever
marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Notice here she is already
"put away". The divorce is final. Even a virgin male in the "whosoever
marrieth her" would be committing adultery! See Mark 10:11--
he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another,
committeth adultery against her.
If two never-married people
commit sexual immorality is it "ADULTERY"? NO!!!!!! For "Adultery" to take
place a MARRIAGE MUST be violated!!!!!!!!!!
In Mark 10:11 then he
that "marry another" MUST be still married in God's eyes, even if he thinks
he "put her away". If he were totally released by God from that marriage,
then it wouldn't be ADULTERY against HER (his put away wife).
In the Old Testament,
priests were not to marry one put away. If divorce was final, then why
would God have a problem with this?
shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take
a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God.
what is the duration for marriage?
Marriage is for a lifetime
in God's eyes.
A Christian and a non-Christian
should NEVER be married.
ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he
that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God
with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said,
I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they
shall be my people.
What does "yoked" mean
anyway? According to Webster 1828:
(yok) n.a chain; a link; a bond of connection; as the yoke of marriage.
yoke (yok) v.
to couple; to join with another.
||Neither shalt thou
make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son,
nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. For they will turn away
thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the
anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.
||And I contended with
them, and cursed them, and smote certain of them, and plucked off their
hair, and made them swear by God, saying, Ye shall not give your daughters
unto their sons, nor take their daughters unto your sons, or for yourselves.
Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations
was there no king like him, who was beloved of his God, and God made him
king over all Israel: Nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause
to sin. Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress
against our God in marrying strange wives?
||Judah hath dealt treacherously,
and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath
profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the
daughter of a strange god.
||Ye adulterers and adulteresses,
know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever
therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
|1 Cor 7:39
||The wife is bound by
the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she
is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
a believer marry?
A believer should marry
ONLY another true believer; preferably of like practice.
Many Christians are
getting divorced today. But what does God say about this?
also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for
a man to put away his wife for every cause?
The impermissability of
divorce is a tough saying! Even Jesus acknowledged this. Jesus said "except
it be for fornication". Why didn't he say for adultery? A married woman
can NOT commit fornication! If a married woman commits sexual immorality
with a man other that her husband it is termed adultery not fornication.
The Bible NEVER says that adultery is grounds for putting away, only fornication.
Then what did Jesus mean by fornication?
And he answered and
said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning
made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father
and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Wherefore they are no
more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let
not man put asunder.
They say unto him, Why
did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her
He saith unto them,
Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your
wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever
shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry
another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away
doth commit adultery.
say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good
to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save
they to whom it is given.
the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was
espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child
of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing
to make her a publick example, was minded to put her away privily.
Joseph and Mary were espoused
which is akin to our term engaged. During this time a wedding had not yet
taken place and therefore they were still UNmarried. They had also never
come together sexually. Why then would Joseph have to put her away? In
Jewish law, if a man found a woman to not be a virgin on the wedding night,
then he could put her away. She was not a virgin bride as he had been led
to believe, but was, in fact, a FORNICATOR. She had committed this fornication
before marriage. This is what Joseph supposed that Mary had done. This
is what Jesus meant by "except it be for fornication".
There is NO Biblical
allowance for two Christians who enter into a covenant marriage before
God and law to ever be divorced.
In the case of the unbelieving
|1 Cor 7:12
||But to the rest speak
I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she
be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
|1 Cor 7:15
||But if the unbelieving
depart, let [that is NOT the same as putting her away!] him depart. A brother
or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us
This simply means you
may allow them to leave if they have made up their mind. But, you are called
to peace. Every effort must be made to keep the marriage together. Marriage
is an unbreakable lifetime contract to the believer. The unbeliever may
not have the same understanding or conviction, so may decide to leave despite
all the believers pleadings and peacemaking. In this case, a believer is
not under bondage and may be remarried, but only in the Lord.
the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving
wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but
now are they holy.
Now how did a believer
get an unsaved spouse anyway? We know as Christians we are commanded to
marry only in the Lord. 1 Cor. 7:12-15 is the case where two unbelievers
married and then one got saved. This is proven by 1 Cor. 7:14 where the
Bible says "else were your children unclean; but now are they holy." You
see, they were obviously married while they were both unsaved because their
children were unclean. But, now they are holy because one of them has since
become saved. If one of them had been saved when they entered into the
marriage covenant, then their children would have never been unclean, but
holy from the beginning. This is the only scriptural way for a saved spouse
to not be under bondage if the other should depart.
The Holy Ghost makes
this exception because this covers a situation which is out of the believers
control (which this would obviously be since one never knows whom nor when
the Lord will save) and thus he or she did not become unequally yoked together
with an unbeliever of his or her own volition. Paul is not releasing the
Christian from "a marriage mistake". Paul is, through the Holy Ghost, releasing
the new (converted after marriage) Christian from a marriage that has been
drastically changed and restructured, after its conception, by a spiritual
event totally out of mans control. Then, and only then, and only after
fervent, sincere attempts by the believer at peace within the marriage
have been exhausted and rejected, is the unbeliever allowed to depart.
A believer is not forced to live in bondage in this case, and in this case
only is free to remarry.
when the unbelieving spouse departs?
If one becomes saved
during the marriage, the believer is free to remarry if the unsaved spouse